Defying Expectations


“Surprise comes from defying expectations”

~ Seth Godin

From a young age many of us are raised to believe how life should be and what we should achieve by a certain age no matter where we life around the world and what gender we are even if the cultural expectations may vary there are always expectations that society holds over us. For me I was always told that I was to have secure job, lifestyle and be married with a family by the point in life that I have reached now and it’s safe to say none of these expectations have happened but how did I learn to feel good and proud about myself?

For the last couple of months I have been really focussing on myself since a situation began which I won’t get into and during that time I have been really knuckling down on focusing on what I want for myself not only in life but also as a person too and with breaking up for the summer from University I had the spare time to really start looking into my life and how I could make things better to achieve the goals that I wish to achieve when I realised that I am already progressing towards my goals without even realising.

You see, for the longest time I have always wanted a secure job that I enjoy doing that would also enhance my lifestyle choices to the point that I can do what I want to do without question because since I can remember I have always been an organised person because I have had to be due to lack of income and time. And a few weeks ago I enrolled on a course to keep me occupied throughout the summer whilst I wasn’t in university about the 12 core skills of life to which I realised that even though I honestly thought that I was a failure in life and would never make anything of myself due to society expectations after really reflecting on my life I have achieved so much compared to others my age and I know that it isn’t in the traditional sense but that’s okay because I have always been far from normal and so I took the plunge to decide that from now on I will lead my life without expectations and I will defy the expectations that I don’t choose to have in my life as I feel like I am on the right track.

Realising that because of how involved that I am with my university study especially approaching the start of my final year it really has dawned on me through my reflection just how close I am to starting to achieve the goals that I have set for myself so long ago which I didn’t realise and because of how hard I have worked and how committed I have been throughout the past five years that I have been studying even through the harder times in my life when I have felt like I haven’t even wanted to get out of bed I persevered through it all and achieved the highest level that I could have done which looking back on my journey so far I couldn’t be prouder.

I have also realised how much that I have changed my personal connections in life and how I have started to surround myself with like minded people cutting out the toxic along the way as in the past I tried to surround myself with people I classed as normal in the attempt to be normal myself and because of that I ended up being used and abused by countless connections to which I have realised since cutting them out truly who my friends are and that it is okay to be far from normal (it’s actually more fun than being a sheep).

And with all that being said I would like to ask this week’s Wednesday Wondering’s Question and I would love to hear your answers in the comment section of this post…

What achievement are you most proud of in your life so far?

And with that it brings this post to a close please don’t hesitate to leave any feedback, suggestions or comments below and please give this post a like if you enjoyed what you read today.

See you all on Sunday! ~ K.

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